Perfect Mail Order Wife Via The Web

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Middle class American men have a long history of looking to so-called mail order brides to provide wives for rural areas, mining camps, soldiers, and factory laborers. Times have changed.

The Web allows anyone to search through hundreds of thousands of potential brides in seconds - no matter where she is in the world.

Despite the fact that I consider this is the golden age of email order brides - and not a way for nerdy or cruel males to exploit poor or submissive women - I think the window will be concluding within 5 to 10 years.

Here's why:

1. Oil

Governments hide the ball when it comes to oil reserves, peak oil, and future prices for gasoline. We can't predict how high costs will go.

Electrical power can be produced for your residence or electric vehicle from photo voltaic, wind, or geothermal resources, but jets require aviation fuel. Thousands of pounds of fuel.

Worldwide travel by passenger jet may well become extremely expensive and out of the reach of a typical man searching for a mail order bride.


The International Marriage Broker Regulation Act of 2005 (IMBRA) demands background checks on American men planning to file immigrant or fiancee visa petitions for foreign women - if they initiated contact through a marriage agency.

Some dating agencies (Yahoo!, are exempt.

An International Marriage Broker (IMB) is an entity - U.S. or foreign headquartered - that offers matchmaking or social referrals between U.S. citizens/permanent residents and foreign nationals for a fee.

Passed in the wake of the Anastasia King murder allegedly to protect foreign brides, all it does is take away privacy, free speech, and freedom of assembly from American men.

International Marriage Brokers are required to:

- examine U.S. sex offender public registries for information on the U.S. clients

- collect criminal and marital background information on the U.S. client, including how prior marriages ended

- present this information to the foreign bride in her native language

- provide foreign clients with a government produced pamphlet describing her legal rights in the U.S.

- obtain the foreign client's written permission to give her personal information to the U.S. client

- limit of 2 fiance(e) visa petitions with at least 2 years between filings

While it should be simple to get around the law, why force Americans to lie to marry the woman of their dreams?

Just don't think this will be the last piece of insane legislation to limit liberty of American citizens.

Anastasia King is not the only woman to fall victim to an abusive and sinister spouse. If this is so vital for foreign brides, why not make a law that applies to all women?

Unless you take steps to protect yourself, as an American man looking for a mail order bride, your hard work to bring in a foreign bride can be hindered.

No disclosures shelter American women from American men with criminal pasts. And there exists that blasted Constitution (what's left of it).

Noble intentions often create terrible laws. IMBRA is a poster child for needless and flawed regulations.

If gay marriage becomes law and opens same-sex spouses to immigration benefits, you can expect Congress to make it exceptionally difficult for anyone to bring a spouse home.

Find your Russian, Ukrainian, or Latvian mail order wife before it becomes an impractical ordeal.

3. American Men Are Still Valued Abroad

For a lot of foreign women, American husbands are nonetheless considered a excellent catch and a favorable match. Go figure.

I'm not sure if I am flattered or frightened.

Many foreign women view American men as better husband material, and not merely on a economic level. Hollywood movies showing women's equality within marriage and relationships have no doubt contributed to the perceptions.

After a divorce, the Web lets a man meet a strikingly beautiful woman of the correct age, profession, and education before initiating contact.

My suggestions:

For younger men, women from Russia, the Ukraine, and the former Soviet Republics, are the sexiest and most beautiful females on the planet.

Only contact women who meet all of your superficial requirements - age, elegance, education. You will have to meet in person to see if the chemistry is there and if love develops.

Caveat - keep an eye on the age spreads. For Russian women, a 10 to 15 year age difference should not be an issue. Larger age differences will feed your ego but could cause problems down the road.

For older or more conventional gentlemen, nothing beats the Philippines. Filipinas are the most pious, family oriented females I have ever lived among.

Age differences are less of an issue in the Philippines. A Filipina will stay married as long as she can. While a Vice-Consul in Manila, I approved visas for brides 50+ years younger than their American husbands.

For men who get pensions or Social Security, I would consider living out my retirement in the Philippines with a young wife. Her country may be a better place to reside. And a "fixed income" in the P.I. is a beautiful thing.

Golden Age:

I believe the window for finding your mail order wife could close within 5 to 10 years. Take action before costs and added government regulations further restrict your freedom.

You will by no means have a higher place in the minds of foreign brides to be.

International travel will never be this cheap again.

You have never been more able to uncover and communicate with the right woman for you without all of the social and cultural restrictions of the past.

Before governments and busybodies once again interfere in the course of love, marriage, and family, grab your wonderful mail order wife.

Dating, romance, and marriage have changed forever.

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Charles Lamm is a former Vice-Consul in Seoul and Manila, retired immigration attorney, and writer now living in Florida.

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This article was published on 2010/10/25